Revalations

 So this week has been huge. Wednesday via a message from someone who matched 16% with me on 23andMe. They are on there with you too. Stephen Mueller.  Well He is my uncle and a half brother of my actual father it turns out. Richard Allen McClure. I was able to start putting so many pieces together. 

It is really crazy. William McClure (Richards father) and his wife Miriam's family the Coe's/Nusbaums are all families around Frederick Md and Carrol County MD where I spent my teenage years. So all those years was surrounded my members of my family and never knew it. 

The end result is I am digging so much. I will be taking an Ancestry.com test to get even more info. 

It was so much. I suppose since I wont ever get to talk to you about this I need to type it all out. How it happened.

Steve wrote me a message via Facebook Tuesday night. In the morning I saw it. He had said he had just used 23andme and I was the highest match and was listed as a 1st Cousin. He said he had been adopted and his mother was adopted. His best guess was that my mother was a sister of his mother. He had started finding info on grandparents and information like that. 

At first I was skeptical since he reached out on FB but then I checked 23andMe and there he was. So of course we started talking. He gave me some names but they were none that would be related to Carol. Some more investigating showed it had to be on his mothers side since his father was fully Jewish and I have almost no Jewish heritage.

We started playing with names and I finally mentioned that Carol when she passed away told me that my biological fathers first name was Richard. This led to him thinking that well his half brother whose name is Richard and the percentages and years started matching up. Steve was born in 1958, nine years after Carol.

So then the floodgates opened as he started giving me information that he knew. Turns out Richard lives about an hour an half west of me.  I may even be his only child I dont know. Its crazy.

All of this led me to thinking as I talked to you back mid year last year  2021 that I didnt ask enough questions about your boyfriend. I dont know why I didn't. I wanted to know. 

So many times I tried to be a good parent and do things one way and somehow it ended up not being the way I wanted. So sorry. 

Love you...